Relevant Reads: UNWORTHY: How to Stop Hating Yourself

UnworthyIn a society that glorifies self-esteem as an industry, a philosophy, and even a religion, many suffer silently from the very opposite of self-love: self-loathing

As someone who has struggled with low self-esteem her entire life, Anneli Rufus knows only too well how the world looks through the eyes of those who are not comfortable in their own skin. In UNWORTHY: How to Stop Hating Yourself, Rufus boldly explores how a lack of faith in ourselves can turn us into our own worst enemies.

Drawing on extensive research, enlightening interviews, and her own poignant experiences, Rufus explores the question, “What personal, societal, biological, and historical factors coalesced to spark this secret epidemic, and what can be done to put a stop to it?”  In UNWORTHY, she reveals the underlying sources of low self-esteem and leads us through strategies for positive change.

“Self-loathing is a dark land studded with booby traps. Fumbling through its dark underbrush, we can not see what our trouble actually is: that we are mistaken about ourselves. That we were told lies long ago and that we, in love and loyalty and fear, believed. Will we believe ourselves to death?”–from UNWORTHY

Anneli Rufus is an award-winning journalist and author of Stuck: Why We Can’t (or Won’t) Move On and Party of One: The Loner’s Manifesto. She has written for many publications, including The Boston Globe, San Francisco Chronicle, The Huffington Post, and Salon.com.

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Praise for Unworthy

“Anneli Rufus has an incredible insight into the human condition. She understands and applauds our desire to be normal as we navigate our complex fragility and ability to detest ourselves. Through observation and anecdote, she shows us that no matter what was said or done to us, self-loathing does not have to be our fate. Hers is a strong, sympathetic and encouraging voice.”
—Henry Rollins

“This book should be required reading for anyone suffering from low self-esteem, and while it will likely cause readers to tear up repeatedly, the empathy and grounded advice is sure to help inspire healing.”—PUBLISHERS WEEKLY

“Whatever the state of your self-esteem, Unworthy is a worthwhile read–a marvelous blend of scientific research and personal stories.”
—Monica Wesolowka, author of Holding Silvan

“Whatever the state of your self-esteem, Unworthy is a worthwhile read–a marvelous blend of scientific research and personal stories.”
—Monica Wesolowka, author of Holding Silvan

“I loved this book. Anneli Rufus has done the impossible: made it thoroughly enjoyable to read about the exquisite ways we make ourselves miserable.  And we all do. With uncanny precision and wit, she has wiret-apped us in our most private self-loathing moments and written so expertly about them, that she is the only voice we can truly trust to convince us to leave those moments and spells behind and be the hero in our own lives. Whether you are estranged from yourself or on decent speaking terms, Anneli Rufus tells us exactly how to befriend and outsmart our demons and let the self-recrimination go. I found this book to be irresistible. Anneli Rufus has somehow seen us, warts and all, loves us anyway, and will teach us to do the same. You will feel better every time you pick up this book; I know I did! Anneli Rufus will be everyone’s new best friend.”
—Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., author of Freeing Yourself From Anxiety